Key #2
When you first came to understand what your spoons are — those precious, invisible measures of your energy — it may have felt like finding the missing language for a life you were living without a map.
Each spoon was a token of capacity: to move, to speak, to plan — to simply exist!
And then, when you understood how few spoons you actually had to spend most days, a deeper, more complicated truth emerged:
You must guard them, FIERCELY. Lovingly.
Because no one else will — not the way you can.
The world will not understand**.**
It will continue to measure worth by output — not by the cost of giving.
The world will see moments of joy — your stroll down the street, your beautifully styled hair, or a smile shared over a cup of coffee in a cafe– and judge you for the moments you must decline later.
The world will ask you to explain, justify, and defend your boundaries as though they were crimes — and you will, if you aren’t careful, become complicit — explaining yourself before they even ask. Worse, you may even skip the joy, to avoid the judgment later.
Because when you fail to satisfy the world’s invisible ledger it will call you lazy, fragile, and selfish — and if you aren’t careful, you will begin to believe it yourself.
But the truth is this:
In fact, more so —
Because you are not curating a life of endless survival.
You are curating a life that still shimmers with meaning.
You Are Already a Keeper of the Spoons
You may. not feel like it yet.
You may still doubt yourself, still second-guess every “no” you give, still ache under the weight of being misunderstood.
But you are already walking the path, even if you meander a bit along the way.
- Every boundary you set.
- Every spoon you defend.
Every quiet, courageous choice to rest instead of perform —
Each one is a stepping stone on the mythic path you are shaping:
- The path of the Spoon Detective.
- The path of the Spoon Detective.
- The path that leads to becoming the Keeper of the Spoons.
- You are gathering your Royal Guard.
- You are learning to build walls where none were given.
- You are learning to guard the gold that life wants to strip from you.
Sovereignty Is Not Selfishness
Each “no” you utter when your spoons run low is not a failure.
It is not weakness.
It is not selfishness.
It is an outright act of heroism.
Each time you refuse to overspend your precious life energy to meet someone else’s comfort or expectation, you are choosing the gift of life.
You are defending the golden thread of your being form fraying into nothingness. You are honoring the wonder of being alive, and of being present.
You are summoning your own inner Royal Guard–that unseen, sovereign force that stands at the gate of your strength and says: “Only what serves my sacred life may pass.”
Not out of cruelty.
Not out of anger.
Not out of laziness.
Out of wisdom.
Out of survival.
Out of love —
and gratitude for the Great Gift that is this Adventure we call life.
Choosing What to Guard, Choosing What to Spend
Sovereignty does not mean never spending spoons.
Sovereignty means choosing where and how you spend them.
It means discerning that spending a spoon to laugh with your child’s worth more than hoarding one for meaningless obligations.
It means knowing that sometimes, the pizza delivery that replaced meal prep because you had to choose where to send that spoon, was not a moral failing, or failure to practice good dietary choice — it was a tactical and courageous choice to live into the day as best you could.
It means recognizing that your joy, your connection, your sanity, are just as worthy of energy as your “duties” — and that maybe your first duty is to the highest call of life.
This bears repeating:
Your energy is not infinite (actually, no-one’s is, and everyone could benefit from better spoon management, diagnosis or no).
It was never meant to be.
You were never built to be endlessly available, endlessly pleasing, endlessly productive.
The myth of infinite capacity is a lie told by a world obsessed with extracting the greatest value, for the lowest price.
Choosing to protect your spoons is choosing to refuse that lie.
Choosing to say:
“I am not a machine. I am a living being, sovereign and sacred; I will not be spent to dust!”
It is not selfishness.
It is sanity, in an insane world.
It is survival.
It is the beginning of a curated, sovereign life.
A Quiet Reflection:
Summoning Your Royal Guard
Tonight, or whenever the day feels heavy and blurred, try pausing to imagine:
At the gates of your life, there stands a Royal Guard — a loyal protector, invisible but fierce,
Waiting there, silent, until called forth.
Free of judgment,
Unflinching support.
There to serve one purpose: to protect the precious treasure of your sovereign life.
Every time you guard a spoon, you summon this protectorate.
You are not fragile. You are commanding. You are a Keeper of Spoons.
A Final Whisper for Today
The world still still misunderstand.
It will still demand more than you can safely give.
It may always ask for proof, explanations, and apologies —
And too often, you may still feel like you owe this much.
But you don’t; and in time, you will do so less and less.
Just recall: Every spoon you guard is not a loss to others —
It is a gift to your future self.
It says “I love you; you are worth keeping alive and healthy; you too deserve a beautiful life. I believe this, completely.”
- You are not failing.
- You are not weak.
- You are not invisible.
- You are a heroic example of strength and wonder.
You are Guarding the treasure.
And that Treasure is nothing less than the luminous, sovereign soul of your one and only life.